Why rewards and bribes backfire when it comes to motivating kids.
When it comes to getting kids to do what we want, it’s awfully tempting to use rewards, but rewarding children for what comes naturally often backfires. That’s because kids have their own inner sense of motivation that often has little to do with what Mom or Dad want from them says Alyson Shafer, Author of Honey I Wrecked the Kids.
“Honestly, if you think about it, the human being, the human baby, born immature, in an infantile state, is already naturally motivated to want to mature, to develop, to improve itself and we don’t have to add any additional motivators to that. And in fact, the child perceives those motivators to be manipulation and control and what that ends up doing is moving the task from a place in the brain where it would be coded as “play and fun and joy” and puts it into a part of that brain that’s called ‘work and labor’ and it loses its interest.”
The Parent Report’s guest expert is Alyson Schafer: author, speaker, psychotherapist and one Canada’s leading parenting experts. She is the best selling author of three parenting books: Breaking The Good Mom Myth, Honey, I Wrecked The Kids, and Ain’t Misbehavin’.
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