How do we explain those parental arguments to our kids?
Having a heated discussion or an argument with our partner is sometimes just unavoidable. After all, we’re only human and tempers flare. But arguments between parents can be upsetting to children, which is why we do need to try to turn the situation around quickly, and offer an explanation to our kids. Howard Markman, one of the authors of 12 Hours to a Great Marriage explains.”All of us are going to disagree, so if you do argue destructively in front of your children, or argue or disagree to stop and then let your children know that ‘even if Mom and Dad disagree about something, Mom and Dad love each other, we’re going to be together no matter what, and our family is going to be together no matter what.’ Now that’s a hard promise to make, but if you can make that promise to your kids it provides a sense of psychological security that’s critical to the child’s development and well being.”
The Parent Report’s guest expert is Howard Markman, one of the authors of 12 Hours to a Great Marriage. Adapted from The Parent Report Radio Show. Any advice or information contained herein should never be a substitute for professional and/or medical advice, diagnosis and treatment. For more information please review Terms of Service.