What to do when you catch your child in a lie.
Most parents would agree that raising a child who is honest is a core value. When a child isn’t honest, we might feel our trust in them has been breached, but the reality is kids lie and for many reasons. Myrna Shure, author of Thinking Parent, Thinking Child feels it’s probably wiser for us to focus on the why behind the lie, rather than the lie itself.”Catching our kid in a lie is often very stressful for a parent, because we really focus more on the fact that the child’s lying than what he’s lying about. For example, if a child hits his brother, a parent might say ‘I’m punishing you not because you hit your brother but because you’re lying.’ We really need to talk about why he hit his brother, and what his needs were and what else he could do to satisfy those needs. So focusing on the problem behind the lying is probably more effective than focusing on lying itself.”
The Parent Report’s guest expert is Myrna Shure, author of Thinking Parent, Thinking Child. Adapted from The Parent Report Radio Show. Any advice or information contained herein should never be a substitute for professional and/or medical advice, diagnosis and treatment. For more information please review Terms of Service.