Finding the silver lining in your child’s defiant behavior.
Is your child a bit willful, ready to stomp his feet and be demanding when he doesn’t get what he wants? Defiance may seem like bad behaviour, but it does have its silver lining. In fact, according to Jacob Azzerod, author of Difficult to Delightful in Just Thirty Days demanding behavior can be a sign a child is ready to grow up a little. “When children misbehave and they are defiant, that is a very healthy striving. It means the child wants to be an adult, wants to be a big boy or a big girl and wants to be his or her own person. The idea of ‘you’re not the boss of me. You can’t tell me what to do’. I think that’s a fabulous striving.” Jacob says parents can turn the tables on defiance by pointing out what traits will make their kids a big boy or a big girl. “When you try to please other people, that shows you’re grown up as opposed to being totally self-centered. When things don’t go your way and you handle it with relative calm as opposed to having a tantrum or a meltdown, that is a sign you’re being grownup.”
The Parent Report’s guest expert is Jacob Azzerod, author of Difficult to Delightful in Just Thirty Days.Adapted from The Parent Report Radio Show. Any advice or information contained herein should never be a substitute for professional and/or medical advice, diagnosis and treatment. For more information please review Terms of Service.