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Bedwetting Were you a bedwetter? Then chances are your child will be too, because bedwetting is often hereditary.

At around three or four years of age, once a child has mastered toilet learning, he then begins to learn to stay dry at night. But not all children manage this at the same rate. In fact 7% of all seven year olds are still bedwetters, with the majority of those being boys. As frustrating as bedwetting is for parents and children, rest assured. Pediatrician Dr. Morton Goldback says all children will eventually outgrow bedwetting.

Dr. Goldback adds that parents need to relax a little over the bedwetting issue. He says children have no control over it and that they aren't doing it to be manipulative or because they're lazy. “ Parents need to understand that their child desperately wants to be dry, but can't be. It's important for parents to encourage their children, be indifferent to the wet nights and to give it time.”

Pediatrician Dr. Jane Hailey agrees. "It's very important for parents not to humiliate or punish their children, because generally children have no control over this and punishing or scolding them will make no difference at all."

So why do some youngsters still bedwet while their peers remain dry at night? Dr. Hailey says it probably has something to do with genetics because bedwetting often runs in families. "Bedwetting is very common. 1% of 16 year old boys still wet the bed, and when I ask about the family history, I often hear that a father or uncle wet the bed into his teens."

While you may hear of drugs available to help the bedwetter, both Dr. Goldback and Dr. Hailey feel patience and time is the best cure although Dr. Dr. Hailey adds that an alarm system consisting of a small piece of equipment tucked into a child's pajamas which buzzes or vibrates to wake a child as he begins to wet the bed, can be very helpful. "The most consistent and useful intervention is an alarm system. Medication is used less but if an older child is motivated and wants to use a simple alarm system then that can be very helpful over a 6 month period."

Bedwetting is frustrating and embarrassing for children, so if you're concerned don't hesitate to discuss it with your child's doctor.

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  • Dad like
    2009-07-18 3:36 am Permalink
  • Concern for future of laziness
    My 25 month old son does not complain about wet or soiled diaper. And I wonder if that is because he is lazy and does not want to stop playing. So how can I stop that trait for his future?
  • Sandy
    2009-07-13 5:32 pm Permalink
  • 12 yr old still wets bed
    My daughter, Ava is 12 and still wetting the bed. I have her in goodnights every night, that helped build her self esteem, but she still pees everynight. She recently went to a sleepover and her diaper leaked allover her friends sheets. I was out of town, so I couldn't help with the situation, so her friends mother made her wear the diapers for the rest of the day.
  • Deb
    2009-07-13 5:23 pm Permalink
  • Re: Preteen bedwetting!`
    I have an 11 year old girl who wets the bed at night. She wears goodnights diapers and that helps build her self esteem. Her doctor told us she will grow out of it in a few years. I have also noticed my daughter "holding it" during the daytime, but when she does that she normally has an accident, so if she does that more than once, I make her wear a diaper for the rest of the day. I don't punish her for bedwetting, only for "holding... View More
  • Rochelle
    2009-02-27 1:34 pm Permalink
  • Re: Preteen bedwetting!`
    I have a 12 year old girl that still wets the bed. Her dad is a sleep walker and she is an extremely highly sensitive person. She goes in phases where she is dry and then wet again. I also find her "holding" it during the daytime. I am at wits end! Please any help out there? I just found a counselor for her. She is as extremely stubborn as she is giving and sweet/nice in nature. She likes everybody and excludes nobody. However, she at home... View More
  • Hana
    2009-01-17 8:54 pm Permalink
  • Re: Bedwetting
    You know what? We took them up on it, and they trained us, and we followed their instructions, and lo and behold, it DID work. Six months later, my 9 year old stopped wetting. And she was wetting, BIG TIME. So we paid a price tag. Okay, but it was cheaper than the psychiatrist would have been, later on. We had difficulties too - and they responded every time we did. Of course they took the money -- we paid for a service rendered. You get what you... View More
  • Lauren
    2008-12-24 3:46 pm Permalink
  • Re: 10 yo girl still waking up wet
    I wet the bed from 10 yrs old to 12 yrs old. Your daughter may be getting stressed about something, sit her down and talk about it! But it should pass. Good luck!! xxx
  • missy
    2008-11-19 1:18 pm Permalink
  • Re: Preteen bedwetting!`
    my 11 year old still wets about every night.bedwetting can be inherited from your parents,her father was a bedwetter till age 12.she has hed her kidneys checked ,so i believe it may be from her fathers bedwetting.
  • Paula
    2008-09-27 8:18 pm Permalink
  • 10 yo girl still waking up wet
    My 10y 7m old daughter still wets the bed on occasion. She'll go dry for 3 weeks then be wet for a couple of nights. She is getting distressed by this thinking she'll never stop wetting the bed. The ped said she'd outgrow it when puberty hit. I'm only hoping he's right. She wears a good night every night and would really like to be able to go without. Is there any medicine like DDAVP that works? Has anyone tried it? I've only read technical... View More
  • summerose
    2007-01-26 5:00 am Permalink
  • friend finds out
    I am a mother of a 12 year old son that is on the Aand B honor roll, a football player and has alot of medical problems. Some are: ADHD with anger issues, seasomal allergies, azthema, high cholestoral, high blood pressure, he also has a sleeping disorder(he never sleeps unless he takes a sleeping pill) and on top of all these complications he wets the bed at night. he is now on #2 medication and it works well if he takes it at a certain time and... View More
  • damo
    2006-06-11 2:47 am Permalink
  • Re: Preteen bedwetting!`
    he will grow out of it my bro didnt stop wetting till he was like 9 & a good thing 4 him is 2 have friends on the net 2 boost his confidence i like having friends im a ppl person but good friends r hard 2 come bi & i no from experience
  • Happy mother
    2006-01-24 3:19 pm Permalink
  • Re: Preteen bedwetting!`
    My 12 year old child has always been a bedwetter,just like meself.And she has accepted that using diapers is the best way to keep the bed dry.She has a relaxed attitude about it and not hide it for her friends.We have been trying out many brands,not long time ago we got DryNights to Europe.And that the best diaper we ever tryed.Its just so safe and comfy to have on,+ you cant see it on.Cause it a pull up panty my daughter often just use to sleep in... View More
  • shea bland
    2005-12-07 2:48 am Permalink
  • Re: Preteen bedwetting!`
    what you can try to do is not drink water when your about to go to sleep because that will make it worse well you can try going to the bathroom before you go to bed and you mom can try to wake your son up atleast one time to go to the bathroom and even if he says he dosnt need to go to the restroom he'll still probably need to if you have any more questions just reach me at my email. shea bland
  • Naomi
    2005-08-22 4:53 am Permalink
  • Re: Bedwetting
    I am about to buy this alarm. It is affordable and we are getting frustrated again. My daughter is now 9 years old and still wets the bed. We fell for the guilt trap of "Pacific International LTD"s salesperson who did this in front of my daughter at age 7!! Let me tell you this is ridiculously expensive over ,000.00- The program was lots of diaries, and also behavior modification, alarm system and it seemed they were training us more... View More
  • hmmmmmmmmm
    2005-01-24 11:35 am Permalink
  • Re: bedwetting
    maybe you should try to get closer to her instead of going to her father about it talk to her and try to get her to talk back tell her its ok and not to be afraid and that there is ways to make it better if it does happen. thell her you care for her and just wanted to make sure she is happy and healthy. i am 14 and she may say she doesnt want to talk or listen but trust me i bet you she does, i would try to push my step mom away at first but it doesnt... View More
  • Wendy
    2005-01-14 1:49 am Permalink
  • bedwetting
    My future step daughter still has problems wetting herself She is 14. I also think she has add but her father says that she outgrew it. It is my understanding that you don't outgrow add. My future husband and his family are in denial as to whether something is wrong with her or not. I disagree I think she should be in therapy she is not a bad child but some of her behaviors are weird. Thanks Wendy
  • Pixie
    2004-04-01 6:01 pm Permalink
  • Re: Preteen bedwetting!`
    I bet your son is embarrassed. Or he is afraid you will slip and say he still wets the bed. Let him know it is normal and if it would help talk to his doctor.
  • Tim
    2004-01-15 10:41 pm Permalink
  • Re: Preteen bedwetting!`
    Thanks for the info on Starchild Labs. Can one of you please post their phone number or web-site so I can contact them? Thanks in advance!
  • Grandma Diane
    2003-08-14 10:29 pm Permalink
  • Re: Preteen bedwetting!`
    Thanks, Michelle for the info!
  • Grandma Diane
    2003-08-14 10:27 pm Permalink
  • alarm system
    Please let me know the name of the Alarm System and where I can buy one!
  • MICHELLE
    2002-05-19 1:03 am Permalink
  • Re: Preteen bedwetting!`
    IF YOU HAVEN'T TRIED AN ALARM SYSTEM YET, I RECOMMEND IT SO HIGHLY. I HAVE LENT OURS OUT TO SOOO MANY PARENTS AND THEY ALL HAVE REPORTED THE SAME GOOD RESULTS. IT GOT IT FROM STARCHILD LABS, P.O.BOX 404, APTOS, CA 95001-0404. IT'S NOT AN OVERNIGHT QUICK FIX, BUT IT MIGHT GIVE YOU SOME INSIGHT AS TO HIS SLEEP PATTERNS, WHICH IN MY BELIEF, "IS" THE CAUSE. THE CHILD CANNOT BREAK THROUGH THE CEILING OF R.E.M SLEEP TO COME TO AN AWAKE STATE... View More
  • MICHELLE C.
    2002-05-19 12:53 am Permalink
  • Re: Bedwetting
    MY SON, NOW 10, WET THE BED UNTIL HE WAS AROUND 9. WE WERE FRUSTRATED BEYOND BELIEF. ALTHOUGH WE WERE SURE TO BE PATIENT, EXPLAIN IT'S NOT HIS FAULT, TRY TO ENCOURAGE HIM, WE ARE HUMAN AND WOULD GET FRUSTRATED AT TIMES. I'M A STRONG BELIEVER THAT IT IS A SLEEP DISORDER, AND HERITATARY.HIS GRANDFATHER SUFFERED FROM NARCOLEPSY. WE WERE TOLD OF AN ALARM SYSTEM AND DECIDED TO TRY IT. IT WORKED. I CANNOT EXPLAIN "EXACTLY" WHY, BUT IT SEEMED TO... View More
  • Redux
    2002-01-24 5:25 am Permalink
  • Preteen bedwetting!`
    My son is small yet nearly pubescent (12+) and his whole world is gathering over his head yet he knows he is still not staying dry at night, and hates to meet new friends no matter what. He fights to stay home, he hates to meet new friends. If you have any comments, well we will listen!
  • Bruce Lokkesmoe
    2001-08-20 7:50 pm Permalink
  • Bedwetting
    Bedwetting is almost always caused by a sleep disorder that interferes with the mechanism of arousal, or awakening to various stimuli. Alarms do NOT cure bedwetting, but they can be helpful in correcting the arousal problem IF USED AS PART OF A SYSTEMATIC SERIES OF EXERCISES AND DRILLS. When the sleep disorder is eliminated, the bedwetting disappears, too. Please visit our website at www.stopbedwettingfree.com and learn more about this. We provide... View More