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I also agree with the other comments about not trading my daughter for the world! But, at the same time would recommend waiting until your a little bit older and possibly have a stable relationship. As much love as a child can give you does not help with the loneliness that only another adult can fill. Conversation with a 2 year old can only stimulate you intellectualy for so long. And then there is the expense that goes along with a child, and while nobody can be fully financially prepared, the longer that you can save the better. I was 23 when my daughter was born and spent most of my life since I was 12 looking after children, from newborns to toddlers to children with disabilities to school age children as well, and thought that I had a good grasp of what it takes to raise a child, but believe me I wrong. It is not the big expenses that surprise you as a parent, it is all the little expenses that shock you. The times when the savings are gone and it is the week before payday and your child outgrows their shoes, or clothes. And yes, they do grow overnight sometimes. I never believed that saying until it happened. Then there is the extra curricular activites that add up. I, like you want my daughter to be able to experience everything that she can. She, unfortunatly, has chosen hockey as her life's passion, and I will support her in that while making many sacrifices of my own as it costs an average of 00/season. All I can say that is I am very fortunate to have a very supportive family at my back because her father is not. We split when she was 2 months old, and while we still live in the same small town (pop 18 000) and run into each other frequently, he will not acknowledge the fact that she exists, and she is almost 8 now. Being a mom is the best expeience in the world and I would not trade it in a million years, but you still have lots of life to live for yourself first, because once a child arrives in the picture, there is no more time for you and your dreams. Your life becomes about that child and their dreams. So go and enjoy your life for a few more years and then save the experience of motherhood for one of your last adventures.
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