Why parents can feel guilty when childbirth doesn’t go as planned.
Having a baby is a time of hope and wonderful expectations. Parents anticipate the birth by preparing the nursery, and creating their birthing plans. But more often than not, the birth itself does not go as planned, and that can leave parents feeling a little empty and a little guilty explains Ann Douglas, author of The Mother of All Pregnancy Books. “It’s very easy to beat yourself up after the fact if your birth somehow deviated from the plan your spelled out in your birth-plan or the way your pre-natal instructor said the birth would go at pre-natal classes and what I think you need to do is to think that if all went well, if you achieved your goal of having a healthy baby and as long as you have a healthy mother and a healthy baby, it’s a happy birth story. It doesn’t matter if you ended up having a cesarean or if you had medication you hadn’t planned on having. I think all those things should be kept in perspective because you made the best choices you could at the time.”
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