The Perils of Punishment

How encouragement goes a long way when it comes to disciplining kids.

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When It comes to disciplining our kids, the one word that comes to mind is “no”. But saying “no” can dampen children’s enthusiasm, not to mention they quickly tune out our “nos”. Alyson Shafer, author of Honey I Wrecked the Kids feels parents can have a bigger impact by being encouraging. “Encouragement is supposed to be inspiring by its very nature; it’s saying that we’re more interested in your persistency, your effort and noticing your improvements, so the process becomes the thing we get excited about.” Alyson reminds us that sometimes there’s a good reason as to why kids misbehave. ”We have the expression ‘when children feel good, they do good’, and that also means that when they’re tired or when they’re hungry we’re not going to get the best out of them. But also when we say ‘when they feel good’, it means feeling encouraged rather than discouraged, which is why so many of those discipline tactics that are meant to make kids feel bad actually backfire.”

 The Parent Report’s guest expert is Alyson Schafer, author of Honey I Wrecked the Kids.

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