Shyness and Children

Why it’s okay that your child is a shrinking violet.


Just as our kids come in all shapes and sizes, so do they all come with their own unique personalities.  Whether they’re toddlers or teens, children who are rather introverted, are often quickly labeled by others as shy, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing.  In fact according to Gordon Neufeld, co-author of Hold Onto Your Kids shyness has its upside. “Shyness is so healthy, it serves a purpose, it’s so natural. For so long we have seen shyness in a pejorative light, a negative light. What shyness really is, is a resistance to contact and closeness with those that we’re not attached to, to preserve our relationships with those that we are attached to. And so it serves a very important developmental function. We mustn’t shame children for their shyness; they will naturally grow out of it as they become their own persons.”

The Parent Report’s guest expert is Gordon Neufeld, co-author of Hold Onto Your Kids. Adapted from The Parent Report Radio Show. Any advice or information contained herein should never be a substitute for professional and/or medical advice, diagnosis and treatment. For more information please review Terms of Service.

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