A look at the dangers of living our dreams through our children.
Did you ever wish that you had the chance to excel at music, dance, maybe sports or academics? It’s wonderful then when we can give our own children those opportunities we never had, as long as we’re doing it for them, not us explains Dr. Jim Taylor, author of Positive Pushing. “One of the great joys for parents is to share in their children’s joys, experiences, life and loves. The difficulty is when parents become overly invested in their child’s achievement activities so that it’s no longer really about the child’s interests and needs but about the parents needs. Children feel that, and they feel that pressure, and they will resist it.”
Jim adds that everyone benefits when parents have a life. “One of the greatest gifts parents can give their kids is to get a life, meaning get their own life, because if parents have a life of their own that’s rewarding and satisfying and meaningful, and they won’t need to place their own lives on the shoulders of their children and expect their children to give them the life that they need.”
Adapted from The Parent Report Radio Show. Any advice or information contained herein should never be a substitute for professional and/or medical advice, diagnosis and treatment. For more information please review Terms of Service.